Status changes

October 20, 2014

It has been a busy year.

I haven’t been writing as much this year, as I have other years, for many reasons.

We have had a foster child since September, 2013.

It took about a month for him to adjust to our family, but things have gone pretty well.

Since August, he has been having more visits with his mom.  There have been some overnight visits since September, and they are becoming more frequent and longer.  The case goes back to court in late November, and it appears that he may be returning, likely by Christmas.

We have mixed feelings.  We can see that there are requirements and expectations that are not being met.  It looks like the agency is trying to get to to a point that there may be come concerns, but not at a unacceptable level.  Sounds confusing?  it took a few tries to land here.

So what’s ahead?  Good question.

Milestones

October 3, 2014

In the midst of our busy lives, it us important to be aware if milestones.

Yesterday (October 2) we celebrated our 21st wedding anniversary.

Two kids, four trips to Burkina Faso, and many other adventures later, we are happily married.

Fall has arrived

September 22, 2014

After a summer with !any days of poor weather, fall has arrived.

The weather forecasters are callimg for a warmer winter than we had last year. Like they know.

Getting into fall

September 16, 2014

We are starting to get back into routine with school.

Hockey is starting up again soon. Piano lessons have been going for a couple of weeks

Things are going to be crazy before we know it.

Our church is participating in The Family Project, produced by Focus on the Family. It looks like it will be a good series.

Reflections on the summer

September 7, 2014

The summer of 2014 was an unusual one, in many respects.

After a long, extremely cold winter, the weather gurus were calling for a hot summer.  They missed the boat.  There was one day that hit 30 degrees Celcius in June.  July and August were cooler and wetter than normal.

The days have slipped away.  And they are becoming shorter.  Last night, it was pretty dark by 8:30.  When it is cloudy, it can be very dark by 8:00.  The same thing has happened in the mornings.  Before long, it will be going to work and coming home in the dark.

It was a short summer, as school went untll almost the end of June, and school started in our area on September 2.

The last few days of August were nice and hot.

For the past several years, we have had passes to a local water park and Canada’s Wonderland.  We didn’t get to either one as much as we have in prior years.  LIfe has been busy this year, for a number of reasons.

We have had a foster child for just over a year, and he has been attending camps, activities, and visits with his family.

Reid has transitioned to kindergarten.  He has a modified day, as he gets picked up about halfway through the day.  He needs his sleep, and that helps him (and us).

Tate has moved into third grade in French immersion.  His teacher is impressed with him and his insights.

Activities will ramp up over the next few weeks.  This weekend has been quiet.  Hockey starts again in a couple of weeks. 

September brings a return to routine, and an opportunity to think about what things we like in our lives, and what behaviours and attitudes maybe should change.  In many ways, it is a more appropriate time for resolutions for change than January is.

It is important to be busy.  However, it is more important not to be too busy.  We need to leave margins, or space around the edges of our lives, so that we have room for things that come up, or go wrong.

Think about it ….. how often does an opportunity come up for something that we have to decline because we are too busy?

Back to school again….

September 3, 2014

We have started to settle back into the fall routine again.

Back to school.  Back to friends.  Back to routine.

We had some nice weather the last weekend before school started.  Finally.

Life is getting back to normal.  Whatever that means……

Interesting day

July 21, 2014

We had a fairly quiet week last week.

That was not the way this week started.

About 12:30, we heard the smoke detector go off.  I got up and tried to use a button to silence it.  After a couple of attempts, it also started saying that there was carbon monoxide.  After double checking the house, I went outside and took a look to make sure nothing was going on.

I called the fire department, and they came out.

We got everyone out and hid out in the van.  Reid was excited, as he is enthralled by fire trucks.

There was no carbon monoxide and no smoke.

In the morning, we saw a dump truck in front of the house.  A few minutes later, another truck showed up.  A backhoe showed up a couple of minutes later.

What do little boys like more than fire trucks?  Construction equipment!!  And in action!!

They dug out a couple of sidewalk slabs to be replaced.

After they were done, the worker asked if we would like his picture taken in the truck.  How could we resist?

It made his week.

And kudos to the city worker for going out his way to entertain a child .

We got Reid up for the show.

Hopefully our week is a bit more quiet after all of this excitement.

Preview of school?

July 18, 2014

Our church ran our annual Vacation Bible Camp (or school as many are used to) this past week.

We enrolled Reid, as it was open to four-year olds.

He will also be entering Junior Kindergarten this fall.

We have had some meetings to help his transition into school be as successful as possible.

It was only three hours long.  There were several group activities.  Some were quiet, some ere not so quiet.  By the time the third hour rolled around, it was becoming quite a bit for Reid.  By the end of the week, I spent some time in the class with him to help keep him settled.

It seems that this may have been a preview of how school may go in the fall.

Soccer with Reid

July 3, 2014

Last night was the first session of a “Me and my dad” soccer program with Reid.

We weren’t really sure what it would be like when we signed him up for it.  We were hopeful that it would be playing soccer.  

This particular program is through Sportball, and is about developing basic skills, like dribbling, trapping, and kicking.  It is nice that every player gets a ball and jersey – with the same number.

It is good to learn the basic skills. 

It will help us focus Reid on listening to instructions from teachers and coaches.  And his dad.  I am the one with the hardest time getting him to listen and pay attention.  I need to be more patient.  God, please hurry up and grant it to me.

Cross cultural experience – at home

June 9, 2014

We have had a foster child, J,  with us since September.

It was a bit bumpy at first, but he settled in after a couple of weeks.

He comes from a Vietnamese background, and attends a Roman Catholic mass in Vietnamese.

We had arranged to take him a couple of weeks ago, but it didn’t work out.

There has been a bit of a shift with access visits over the summer.  The agency will still be supervising two visits per month.  We will be supervising visits at soccer.

We will also be taking him to attend the Vietnamese mass about once per month, as our schedule permits.

Sunday was the first day I took him.

It was definitely a different experience.

We attend an evangelical Protestant church, where the dress is quite relaxed.  I haven’t wore a suit to church in a very long time.

I felt very underdressed, compared to most of the adults there.

It was also a long service, close to two hours, as they were celebrating the ordination of a new deacon.

It was something different to sit through a church service conducted in a different language.

It was also different to attend a mass.

J loved seeing his family.  It was good for everyone to see each other.

After church. we went for supper with J’s mom and grandma.

It is good to see how other Christian denominations conduct their worship service.  It can also be part of fostering.

It was been over eight years since I did that, and we flew to Africa to do that.