Secrets can hold a great deal of power, if we let them.
There are good secrets, like presents and surprises. These secrets are usually kept for a short period of time, and because they are for a good purpose.
The secrets that have power tend to be darker, the things that we don’t want known from our past. People go to great lengths to keep things quiet and out of sight.
There are some things that shouldn’t necessarily be widely known.
We often go to great lengths to put up a front that everything is going well, even though things may becoming completely unglued.
The power of secrets is broken by being honest, with people that are safe. These are usually close friends, with a relationship developed and tested over time.
Francesca Battistelli is a Christian artist. She released an album in 2014 titled “If We’re Honest”. The title track is very powerful. Here’s a link to the YouTube videoIf We’re Honest.
When we admit to each other that we are a mess, we gain freedom. We don’t have to waste energy hiding our crap. We can just be real with each other
It can be a long road to get to this point.
Not everyone is safe to be brutally honest with.
Still, it is important to be honest.
It takes too much energy to keep the walls from falling in.
To be honest, it is life draining.
The cumulative effect of things takes a toll over time. In the last 18 months, we have received a significant diagnosis for each of our kids. My parents have both had challenges. Our extended family has been dealing with a number of challenges. To be honest, I am worn down by all of these things. But is necessary to keep moving forward, and finding a place where energy can be restored. It can be a huge challenge, especially when it seems everyone wants one more piece.
In spite of this, life is still good. God provides.
And energy is better spent on living, rather than keeping up the walls.