February 8, 2016

There are some days, even weeks, that feel like they suck the life out of you.

Thus week has had a few of those. Some of the behaviours and defiance are just enough to make me wish I could crawl under a rock.

I was talking to another parent who has adopted a couple of kids with FASD. I commended her for making it. She said the teen years can be tough, especially with hormones and all of the fun that’s on with that.

There has been so much going on that I just feel wrung out.

In the past couple of months , I came across a new to me blog, Confessions of an adoptive parent, blogged by Mike and Kristin Berry.

They have been wiring for a while. They have adopted some kids with special needs, including FASD.

They have just launched a podcast called Honestly Speakimg, which can be found on their website. It can also be found on iTunes.

They also offer a free resource, “The Weary Parent’s Guide to Escaping Exhaustion”, for subscribing to their email.

I have found several posts to be right where I’m living at the moment.

Adoption in the media

January 31, 2016

Whether you love th or hate them, the Robertson family of Duck Dynasty fame doesn’t beat around the bush.

We saw sme ads for a new reality series outlining the journey of Jep and Jessica as they pursue adoption.

This series iis Jep and Jessica:Growing the Dynasty, on A & E. The link is :http://www.aetv.com/shows/jep-jessica-growing-the-dynasty

We have seem three episodes so far.

They discuss a bit abut their journey to adoption, and how they integrate the new baby into their family. It also shows the extended family coming to meet the new baby.

I thunk it is well done, albeit a bit fluffy.

It presents adoption in a very positive light.

Adoption awareness is very important.  There are thousands of children waiting for a forever family. Very few are babies. All need families.

Adoption isn’t necessarily for everyone. It can be a tough road, especially when journeying down the spare dealing with challenges that happened in utero.

Everyone around adoptive families can help. Offering to help with an errand, or provide child care could be a huge blessing.  The need is even greater for families that have children with special needs.


January 25, 2016

It’s hard to believe, but it has been six years since a little man was born that has challenged, stretched, and taught us many things was born.
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Open Adoption Christmas Party

December 9, 2015

Reid and I attended the annual open adoption Christmas party with his birth mother and her fiance this past weekend.

It was the fifth time we have  attended this event.  We agreed to meet with her a couple of times a year when she consented to his adoption.

We have always been open with the fact that our kids are adopted.  It is a challenge to share what is appropriate, for both the age and developmental stage of the child.  Tate understands, and is comfortable with it.  He has asked some questions, but nothing too difficult. Reid hasn’t really reached that point where we can share much with him.

It is good to maintain contact with the family of origin.  I’m not sure if it will become awkward at some point.  Time will tell.

There are many families that attend year after year, and have a good relationship.  Hopefully that will be our journey as well.

Vacation at Disney World

November 16, 2015

We recently returned home from two weeks away from home traveling to Disney World In Florida.

It was fun to travel and see the sights. It was good to get home, as well.

One thing that made our time in the parks easier was Disney’s Disability Access Service Card. This is available to anyone with a disability, visible or invisible. No medical documentation is required to obtain it.

It allows the holder and their party to go to a ride, and get a time to return, based on the current wait time. While waiting, it is possible to go and do something else until the return time.  When this is combined with Fast passes, it really makes a big dent in wait times. There were very few times that we waited more than about 20 to 30 minutes. Most wait times weren’t really long, but some were up to 90 minutes.

We stayed on the property, which makes things easier, as travel is minimized

We stayed for 10 nights and spent each day in the parks. It may seem like quite a bit, but it gave us lots of time for get everything done, without too much rushing.

Disney isn’t cheap, but the experience us well done. Even when we had challenges, the cast members were very accommodating.

It will likely be a couple of years before we go again. It was a worthwhile trip .

Seven years

October 3, 2015

I got a notification that it has been seven years since I started this blog.

So much has happened, it is hard to describe briefly. It has taken more than 500 posts.

In the last year, our lives have shifted toward advocacy for our children.

More to come on that front.

FASD Awareness Day – September 9

September 7, 2015

Fetal Alcohol Spectrum Disorder, or FASD, is a complex, often invisible disability, caused by alcohol consumption during pregnancy.

September 9 is a day set aside to increase awareness.

Back to school time

September 6, 2015

Some kids have been back to school for a few days, even weeks.

Ours go back on Tuesday. It’s hard to believe that summer is fading away.

Before we know it, leaves will be falling. Not too much after that, it will be snow

For now, we will have to enjoy the last bit of warm weather.

Exhausting days

August 3, 2015

There are some seasons of life that are exhausting.

I have heard it said that the days are long and the years are short with young kids.

Don’t be afraid to ask parents of young kids, especially if they have kids with special needs, if they need to talk, or have a break. You have no idea the encouragement it could make to someone who may be hanging by a thread.

Acronyms – more thoughts

July 21, 2015

Words are powerful.

The old rhyme goes…

Sticks and stones will break my bones, but names will never hurt me.

That is not at all true.  Words hurt far more than we admit.

We received a diagnosis of FASD, or Fetal Alcohol Spectrum Disorder earlier this spring.

The diagnosis opens the door to getting supports in the school system.  It can be a challenge getting access, as there are many needs and limited resources.

What he wants to do is feel normal.

For everyone, that is the deep, inner cry of our soul — to fit in, to be valued, to connect with others, to feel normal–whatever “normal” is.

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