Adopting an older child

October 8, 2016

Here’s a heart warming story about the adoption of an almost 18 year old, just before he aged out of foster care. 

How one loving couple changed an 18 year old foster kid”s life 

Back to school…

September 5, 2016

It’s hard to believe it’s that time of year again. 

Summer has been fun, but it is nice to be heading back to a regular routine. 

What can I learn from my son about persistence

September 3, 2016

Our youngest son is six, but resembles a three year old in many ways   

After a particularly long day, I am thinking back about positives in some challenging, even irritating moments. 

  1. Pursue what you love to do, no matter what. He is an outdoor kid. He loves to go biking. It felt like he asked about 10,00 times if we could go biking. No matter how many times he as told no, or later, he kept on going until we went out. 
  2. Always find time to play. Another common request is to play with him. Very often, it is when w are tired, or not really wanting to. 
  3. Express your emirates   In theMidwest off the no, or later, he will often cry. He can go over the top sometimes, but there is no doubt h mo doubt how he feels. 

Just some thoughts from a weary parent. 

If we’re honest……

July 29, 2016

Secrets can hold a great deal of power, if we let them.

There are good secrets, like presents and surprises.  These secrets are usually kept for a short period of time, and because they are for a good purpose.

The secrets that have power tend to be darker, the things that we don’t want known from our past. People go to great lengths to keep things quiet and out of sight.

There are some things that shouldn’t necessarily be widely known.

We often go to great lengths to put up a front that everything is going well, even though things may becoming completely unglued.

The power of secrets is broken by being honest, with people that are safe.  These are usually close friends, with a relationship developed and tested over time.

Francesca Battistelli is a Christian artist. She released an album in 2014 titled “If We’re Honest”.   The title track is very powerful. Here’s a link to the YouTube videoIf We’re Honest.

When we admit to each other that we are a mess, we gain freedom. We don’t have to waste energy hiding our crap.  We can just be real with each other

It can be a long road to get to this point.

Not everyone is safe to be brutally honest with.

Still, it is important to be honest.

It takes too much energy to keep the walls from falling in.

To be honest, it is life draining.

The cumulative effect of things takes a toll over time.  In the last 18 months, we have received a significant diagnosis for each of our kids.  My parents have both had challenges.  Our extended family has been dealing with a number of challenges.  To be honest, I am worn down by all of these things.  But is necessary to keep moving forward, and finding a place where energy can be restored.  It can be a huge challenge, especially when it seems everyone wants one more piece.

In spite of this, life is still good.  God provides.

And energy is better spent on living, rather than keeping up the walls.


Summer goes by…

July 16, 2016

We’ve had some pretty hot weather over the past week or so. 

It’s been uncomfortable at times, but this the type of weather we wait all winter for. 

It’s really hard to believe that July is half gone. 

Before we know it, it will be September and back to school time. 

Until then, we just have to enjoy the weather. 

Work by design summit

June 4, 2016

Over the past few months, I’ve been reading a few different blogs, and picking up a few different tips about how to function more efficiently in all aspects of life.

The most recent resource I participared in was the Work by Design summit, hosted by Claire Diaz-Ortiz. Claire was an early employee at Twitter, and helped shape the experience.

Access is available to the Work by Design Summit here.

Your child doesn’t look like they have FASD ….

May 24, 2016

So far, we haven’t run into any major problems with people in the school system having an issue getting FASD and the accommodations needed that are spelled out in the IEP. Until recently. But that’s another story …..

Here’s a link to a post on by Mike Berry,  Your child doesn’t look like they have FASD. This post summarizes many things we have experienced, or will likely experience in the future.

The issue of invisible disabilities goes far beyond FASD, or the autism spectrum, or many other acronyms.


Ten years 

April 27, 2016

This is a special day for us. 

Ten years ago, our baby was delivered. By a social worker. To our front door..

That little boy has become a bright, creative, energetic young man.


April 18, 2016

I was just looking total views, and it is closing in on 5,000. 

Not all days are as horrible as it seems

April 12, 2016

There are some days it feels like everyone is link get up to take one more kick, punch, stab, or whatever else. These days are just draining. 

I took the boys to buy a birthday card. Tate wrote his name, as usual. Then Reid wrote his name. I was surpriseded. There have been a few significant things happening recently. Progress happens step by step. 

I happened to hear a song on the radio recently that spok to me in the midst of challfesges. It was I will trust in You – Lauren Daigle

No matter what’s going on, we have tip trust in God to work things out. 

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