Seven years

October 3, 2015

I got a notification that it has been seven years since I started this blog.

So much has happened, it is hard to describe briefly. It has taken more than 500 posts.

In the last year, our lives have shifted toward advocacy for our children.

More to come on that front.

FASD Awareness Day – September 9

September 7, 2015

Fetal Alcohol Spectrum Disorder, or FASD, is a complex, often invisible disability, caused by alcohol consumption during pregnancy.

September 9 is a day set aside to increase awareness.

Back to school time

September 6, 2015

Some kids have been back to school for a few days, even weeks.

Ours go back on Tuesday. It’s hard to believe that summer is fading away.

Before we know it, leaves will be falling. Not too much after that, it will be snow

For now, we will have to enjoy the last bit of warm weather.

Exhausting days

August 3, 2015

There are some seasons of life that are exhausting.

I have heard it said that the days are long and the years are short with young kids.

Don’t be afraid to ask parents of young kids, especially if they have kids with special needs, if they need to talk, or have a break. You have no idea the encouragement it could make to someone who may be hanging by a thread.

Acronyms – more thoughts

July 21, 2015

Words are powerful.

The old rhyme goes…

Sticks and stones will break my bones, but names will never hurt me.

That is not at all true.  Words hurt far more than we admit.

We received a diagnosis of FASD, or Fetal Alcohol Spectrum Disorder earlier this spring.

The diagnosis opens the door to getting supports in the school system.  It can be a challenge getting access, as there are many needs and limited resources.

What he wants to do is feel normal.

For everyone, that is the deep, inner cry of our soul — to fit in, to be valued, to connect with others, to feel normal–whatever “normal” is.

Silence in the blogosphere

July 19, 2015

I haven’t had much to say lately. Life has been bush, but I’m processing lots on a personal level that isn’t necessarily ready to go out to the world.

Belated Father’s Day thoughts

June 24, 2015

We live in a complicated world.

One of my co-workers has a child fathered by a man who has not exactly been supportive of his son.  It is a long, and unfortunately, fairly typical of a male who cuts and runs when things get tough.

Since then, there is another man that has come into her life, and is a true father and daddy to her son.

The boy’s biological father expresses a bit of an interest around Father’s Day, but it appears to be out of jealousy for the real father figure.

One of the best ways I have heard the immature grown up male described is a “boy that can shave”.  I’ve heard Matt Chandler of the Village Church in Texas use that term.  I’m not sure if it is originally his, but it sure is accurate.

We exchanged a few texts, and commented about the difference between a father and a dad; alternatively the difference between a man and a boy that can shave.

It can take a few seconds to become a father.  Being a dad is a 24/7, 18 plus year commitment.

When it rains, it pours

May 21, 2015

May seems to have been a really busy month.

We have finished up one study. We are waiting to find out about another. Appointments are happening in many places. And that is for the kids.

My dad has been having someundiagnosed pain in his leg for a few months. After being boun around for months, he is finally seeing somedifferent doctors. It looks he is headed for surgery in the not too distant future.

Right now we are living the sandwich generation.

Nine years

April 28, 2015

April 27, 2006.

It was a day that changed our lives forever.

At the same point in time, our four year long quest to become parents had ended, and our journey as parents began at the same time, as our new baby was delivered.

And the adventure continues.

Acronyms and their impact on our lives

April 12, 2015

This year has been a blur.

Part of it is getting older.  I’ve heard older people say that time goes as you get older.  A few years ago, I didn’t really believe.  And I didn’t really care, because I had lots of time left.

I find winter to be a tiring season, as the days are short.  February was miserably cold this year.

We have been extremely busy over the past few weeks, as we have been getting an educational assessment completed.  It took several trips and meetings to complete the testing and discuss the results.

We received a diagnosis, with an acronym, which we did not expect a few months ago.

It is frustrating to have a diagnosis, but it helps explain some things that we had no explanation for.  It also opens the door for some additional assistance and accommodation, which will be helpful.

We will have to work at teaching and developing impulse control and other other skills that most kids have.

We will have to be constantly in prayer and relying on God for wisdom as we parent over the next few years.