Adoption is for life

March 30, 2015

Adoption changes the lives of everyone around the adaptive family.

Some will say that us a nice gesture.

Others won’t know what to say, and say nothing.

Others will make all sorts of well meaning, but uninformed comments.

It can take years, even decades before we realize the impact of adoption.

Adoption is meant to be a commitment to the child, no matter how tough things can be.

Snow Day!!!

February 2, 2015

Today was quite an unusual day.

I woke up around 6, and was surprised to see how much snow had fallen overnight.

All the schools in our area, including the cities were closed.

After spending about an hour digging out, I was ready to head into work. I had an appointment in the morning, so I drove in. After I got parked, I found out the office was closed.  It would have been nice to known a bit sooner .

After I got home, I took the bpoys tobogganing for a bit. It was pretty cold, so we didn’t last too long.

At thr end of the day, it was fun.

Busy weekend

January 25, 2015

This has been a weekend of milestones for us.

Reid was five yesterday. Today marks the fifth anniversary of him coming home.

We were fortunate to get him so young. He really has no recollection of anything other than life with us. We are tremendously blessed to have that experience.

Even though things are busy, we are blessed to have Reid in our family. He is patient and determined, which helps make sure we get what he is trying to communicate.

We have much to be thankful for, there is no doubt about that.

The importance of community

January 23, 2015

We returned early Sunday evening from a trip to Indiana for a Bible quizzing event.

It was fun, but it was a long trip, with about seven hours of driving each way.

It is a lot of fun to go on a trip like that as part of a group.

It can be a challenge when there are smaller children that don’t handles quiet activity well. A group of parents with kids in this age group that can take turns looking after the younger kids makes it work out easier for everyone.

We so easily don’t see those around us that may have some sort of struggle. Don’t be afraid to offer help. You never know how much of a difference it could make.

Birthdays

January 23, 2015

As the week has gone by, I realized today is the last day we will have a four year old in our home.

Reid’s birthday is tomorrow.

It is hard to believe it has been five years.

Where has the time gone?

We have a fee spirited, living, energetic boy. At times, he tests us. He is very determined. Most of the time, it serves him well. Other times, not so much.

The key is to enjoy each day.

Back to routine

January 3, 2015

School starts again on Monday.

It is nice to get back into routine.

a break us nice, but it to possible to have too much of a good thing. It is important to get back to routine before it gets there.

And the 2014 year continues to wind down

December 29, 2014

This year has been a blur.

We have had a foster child all through the year, since September, 2013.  He has been able to be involved in many activities over the last year that he was not able to before.  There are plans to return him to his mom a full-time basis, subject to meeting certain requirements.

Reid and Tate have both been involved in many activities as well.  They are both progressing, and we are pleased with their accomplishments.

We got a tent this summer.  Some of us slept out in it a few times.  We camped for a couple of days at the end of August as well.

Reid has been going to school on a modified program, for half days, since September.  It can be hard to tell how he likes it.  They have been on break for the last week.  He has been sign for a few days if there is school today.  I guess he actually does like it.

After a couple of more days, it will be 2015.

Time seems to go faster with each passing year.

And 2014 draws to a close…..

December 24, 2014

It is hard to believe this year us almost finished.

There’s been a ton of activity.

As I think about it, I think I need to think about writing more before I post it.

Highlights

December 13, 2014

Some days of full of good things and bad things.

Today was one with a significant highlight.

Reid is in his second season in a special hockey program.  One of our main goals has been for him to learn to be able to skate independently.  He was getting close at the end of last year.  It took him a while to get back up to speed this year.  He has been getting close.  The coaches have ben working to be get up by leaning on his hockey stick, or his leg to get up.

I was watching him play on the ice, like he usually does.  Then, I saw him get up and skate about five or six steps.  I was completely stunned.  I was pleased to see all the work he has been doing pay off.

Life can be surreal

November 25, 2014

There’s a whole lot of stuff going on this week.

We just finished sending an email to Reid’s birth mother offering to pick her up for the annual open adoption Christmas party. This will be the fourth year we have done this.

We just found out that a foster situation we have been dealing with for the last year is not going as well as the agency had hoped, so it will still be going on for a while. We don’t know how much longer it will continue. There are so many things that need some involvement from family, but it isn’t. It is unbelievable how frustrating it us when people don’t get the whole picture and his serious things are.

We have seen another situation where things have happened to a child that are just awful, and the child is just dealing with the situation.

It is interesting how our family has been formed by adoption, and continues to be shaped by our involvement with the system.

Adoption has enriched our family and our lives.