July 21, 2015
Words are powerful.
The old rhyme goes…
Sticks and stones will break my bones, but names will never hurt me.
That is not at all true. Words hurt far more than we admit.
We received a diagnosis of FASD, or Fetal Alcohol Spectrum Disorder earlier this spring.
The diagnosis opens the door to getting supports in the school system. It can be a challenge getting access, as there are many needs and limited resources.
What he wants to do is feel normal.
For everyone, that is the deep, inner cry of our soul — to fit in, to be valued, to connect with others, to feel normal–whatever “normal” is.
July 19, 2015
I haven’t had much to say lately. Life has been bush, but I’m processing lots on a personal level that isn’t necessarily ready to go out to the world.
June 24, 2015
We live in a complicated world.
One of my co-workers has a child fathered by a man who has not exactly been supportive of his son. It is a long, and unfortunately, fairly typical of a male who cuts and runs when things get tough.
Since then, there is another man that has come into her life, and is a true father and daddy to her son.
The boy’s biological father expresses a bit of an interest around Father’s Day, but it appears to be out of jealousy for the real father figure.
One of the best ways I have heard the immature grown up male described is a “boy that can shave”. I’ve heard Matt Chandler of the Village Church in Texas use that term. I’m not sure if it is originally his, but it sure is accurate.
We exchanged a few texts, and commented about the difference between a father and a dad; alternatively the difference between a man and a boy that can shave.
It can take a few seconds to become a father. Being a dad is a 24/7, 18 plus year commitment.
May 21, 2015
May seems to have been a really busy month.
We have finished up one study. We are waiting to find out about another. Appointments are happening in many places. And that is for the kids.
My dad has been having someundiagnosed pain in his leg for a few months. After being boun around for months, he is finally seeing somedifferent doctors. It looks he is headed for surgery in the not too distant future.
Right now we are living the sandwich generation.
April 28, 2015
April 27, 2006.
It was a day that changed our lives forever.
At the same point in time, our four year long quest to become parents had ended, and our journey as parents began at the same time, as our new baby was delivered.
And the adventure continues.
April 12, 2015
This year has been a blur.
Part of it is getting older. I’ve heard older people say that time goes as you get older. A few years ago, I didn’t really believe. And I didn’t really care, because I had lots of time left.
I find winter to be a tiring season, as the days are short. February was miserably cold this year.
We have been extremely busy over the past few weeks, as we have been getting an educational assessment completed. It took several trips and meetings to complete the testing and discuss the results.
We received a diagnosis, with an acronym, which we did not expect a few months ago.
It is frustrating to have a diagnosis, but it helps explain some things that we had no explanation for. It also opens the door for some additional assistance and accommodation, which will be helpful.
We will have to work at teaching and developing impulse control and other other skills that most kids have.
We will have to be constantly in prayer and relying on God for wisdom as we parent over the next few years.
April 11, 2015
Nine years ago, we were in the midst of waiting to find out if we were going to be parents.
We had an interview with two social workers to discuss the possibility of becoming parents to a little boy waiting for a forever family.
We found out on April 12, 2006. And our lives have not been the same since.
March 30, 2015
Adoption changes the lives of everyone around the adaptive family.
Some will say that us a nice gesture.
Others won’t know what to say, and say nothing.
Others will make all sorts of well meaning, but uninformed comments.
It can take years, even decades before we realize the impact of adoption.
Adoption is meant to be a commitment to the child, no matter how tough things can be.
February 2, 2015
Today was quite an unusual day.
I woke up around 6, and was surprised to see how much snow had fallen overnight.
All the schools in our area, including the cities were closed.
After spending about an hour digging out, I was ready to head into work. I had an appointment in the morning, so I drove in. After I got parked, I found out the office was closed. It would have been nice to known a bit sooner .
After I got home, I took the bpoys tobogganing for a bit. It was pretty cold, so we didn’t last too long.
At thr end of the day, it was fun.
January 25, 2015
This has been a weekend of milestones for us.
Reid was five yesterday. Today marks the fifth anniversary of him coming home.
We were fortunate to get him so young. He really has no recollection of anything other than life with us. We are tremendously blessed to have that experience.
Even though things are busy, we are blessed to have Reid in our family. He is patient and determined, which helps make sure we get what he is trying to communicate.
We have much to be thankful for, there is no doubt about that.