Archive for the ‘Development’ Category

What can I learn from my son about persistence

September 3, 2016

Our youngest son is six, but resembles a three year old in many ways   

After a particularly long day, I am thinking back about positives in some challenging, even irritating moments. 

  1. Pursue what you love to do, no matter what. He is an outdoor kid. He loves to go biking. It felt like he asked about 10,00 times if we could go biking. No matter how many times he as told no, or later, he kept on going until we went out. 
  2. Always find time to play. Another common request is to play with him. Very often, it is when w are tired, or not really wanting to. 
  3. Express your emirates   In theMidwest off the no, or later, he will often cry. He can go over the top sometimes, but there is no doubt h mo doubt how he feels. 

Just some thoughts from a weary parent. 


Not all days are as horrible as it seems

April 12, 2016

There are some days it feels like everyone is link get up to take one more kick, punch, stab, or whatever else. These days are just draining. 

I took the boys to buy a birthday card. Tate wrote his name, as usual. Then Reid wrote his name. I was surpriseded. There have been a few significant things happening recently. Progress happens step by step. 

I happened to hear a song on the radio recently that spok to me in the midst of challfesges. It was I will trust in You – Lauren Daigle

No matter what’s going on, we have tip trust in God to work things out. 

Acronyms and their impact on our lives

April 12, 2015

This year has been a blur.

Part of it is getting older.  I’ve heard older people say that time goes as you get older.  A few years ago, I didn’t really believe.  And I didn’t really care, because I had lots of time left.

I find winter to be a tiring season, as the days are short.  February was miserably cold this year.

We have been extremely busy over the past few weeks, as we have been getting an educational assessment completed.  It took several trips and meetings to complete the testing and discuss the results.

We received a diagnosis, with an acronym, which we did not expect a few months ago.

It is frustrating to have a diagnosis, but it helps explain some things that we had no explanation for.  It also opens the door for some additional assistance and accommodation, which will be helpful.

We will have to work at teaching and developing impulse control and other other skills that most kids have.

We will have to be constantly in prayer and relying on God for wisdom as we parent over the next few years.


December 13, 2014

Some days of full of good things and bad things.

Today was one with a significant highlight.

Reid is in his second season in a special hockey program.  One of our main goals has been for him to learn to be able to skate independently.  He was getting close at the end of last year.  It took him a while to get back up to speed this year.  He has been getting close.  The coaches have ben working to be get up by leaning on his hockey stick, or his leg to get up.

I was watching him play on the ice, like he usually does.  Then, I saw him get up and skate about five or six steps.  I was completely stunned.  I was pleased to see all the work he has been doing pay off.


November 23, 2014

It is interesting how each child has special abilities.

Reid seems to have an uncanny idea to identify places that we have been to, often only once, or at some distant point in the past.

A couple of weeks ago, he picked out a spot Tate played soccer a couple of years ago as we were driving down the street.

Today, we were driving by an arena that he played hockey at this spring.

Tate played at the soccer field for a few months, and we could have approached the field from the other way on a couple of occasions.

The arena is really unusual, as we would not have been by there before.  We were driving down a street at a completely different angle than we would have when we went there before.

He has always been good at recognizing locations.

So, is he just good at locations, or is this some sort of extraordinary skill?

Status changes

October 20, 2014

It has been a busy year.

I haven’t been writing as much this year, as I have other years, for many reasons.

We have had a foster child since September, 2013.

It took about a month for him to adjust to our family, but things have gone pretty well.

Since August, he has been having more visits with his mom.  There have been some overnight visits since September, and they are becoming more frequent and longer.  The case goes back to court in late November, and it appears that he may be returning, likely by Christmas.

We have mixed feelings.  We can see that there are requirements and expectations that are not being met.  It looks like the agency is trying to get to to a point that there may be come concerns, but not at a unacceptable level.  Sounds confusing?  it took a few tries to land here.

So what’s ahead?  Good question.

Soccer with Reid

July 3, 2014

Last night was the first session of a “Me and my dad” soccer program with Reid.

We weren’t really sure what it would be like when we signed him up for it.  We were hopeful that it would be playing soccer.  

This particular program is through Sportball, and is about developing basic skills, like dribbling, trapping, and kicking.  It is nice that every player gets a ball and jersey – with the same number.

It is good to learn the basic skills. 

It will help us focus Reid on listening to instructions from teachers and coaches.  And his dad.  I am the one with the hardest time getting him to listen and pay attention.  I need to be more patient.  God, please hurry up and grant it to me.

Another thought about developmental milestones

November 13, 2013

I read a post, Being a scary monster is a beautiful thing, this morning from Ellen at about how kids progress differently, especially when they have special needs.

It reminded me how much each child moves at their own pace.  Our own two kids are so different in their progress, as all are.

We have to remember that each child is different.  Milestones are based on averages.  An average is based the total of a lot, divided by the number.  By that very fact, everyone is above or below average.

We try to see everything as normal.  Really, nothing is normal.

Really busy days

October 5, 2013

There are times when it rains, it pours.

Today was a busy day for us.

Tate had another round of hockey today at 11:00.

Reid had his first trial on the ice in the Ice Pirates program at 12:15.

I took him into change room about half an hour early.  I got all his gear on fairly quickly.

After his skates were on, he took a few steps around.  They were pretty hesitant, but he did pretty well his second time on skates.  We tried once last year, and it did not go really well.

The time on the ice went well.  He spent a bit of time trying to walk and skate.  Much of the time, he was being pushed around on a device early skaters use to hold them up.

When it came time for him to come off the ice, he was not happy.  We weren’t sure if he liked it or not.  He was helping to take the stuff off, which was unusual.

We won’t really know for certain until we take him back next week and start to put the gear on.

After Reid had a much needed nap, we went on to our next activity.

We had been trying to get together with Reid’s birth mother since the summer.  We had made a couple of appointments, which hadn’t worked out.

We agreed to get together this afternoon at Chuck E Cheese.  It was OK, but it seemed like a really long time.  It is a really busy place on Saturday afternoon, and there are tons and tons of kids.  Quite loud.  By the time we left, we were definitely ready to go.

At the end of it all, it was a good day.

First day on the ice.

Another meeting with Reid’s birth mother.

And it all went well.

Pedalling a bike

August 1, 2013

Over the past few months, we have been trying a few different things to get Reid to be able to pedal.

We tried Tate’s first trike, but Reid was really big for it.  His feet kept bending the wrong way, rather than staying L shaped, or close to it, as they should.

A couple of months ago, we tried a couple of times on Tate’s first bike, and it went the same way.  It was more challenging with the bike, as the pedals don’t move unless they are pushed.  He just wasn’t at the place to get it.

We went to a physiotherapy appointment a couple of months ago, and the PT gave us some tips.  In the busyness of life, they were never tried.

Until tonight.  I raised the seat on his bike.  I tried a crude pulley suggestion like she suggested to help keep his feet moving.

Once we got out, the pulley system didn’t matter at all.

HE. GOT. IT.  Pedalling like he had been doing it for years.  After a few minutes, biking straight and on purpose.  Only a couple of spills.

We were so impressed!!!

Good Job Reid!!!

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