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Another year has gone and a new one has come

December 29, 2016

Where did 2016 go?

2016 seems to have been notable in particular for the number of celebrities who have passed on. 

David Bowie. 

Prince. 

Leonard Cohen. 

Carrie Fisher. Closely followed by her mother, Dennis Reynolds

Ultimately, no one can escape death. Some pass on early. Others have a long life.

We have no control over what happens to us in life. We can control how we react to it. 

Forgiveness us a big part if handling what happens in life. Forgiveness ultimately sets in prisoner 

Back to school…

September 5, 2016

It’s hard to believe it’s that time of year again. 

Summer has been fun, but it is nice to be heading back to a regular routine. 

What can I learn from my son about persistence

September 3, 2016

Our youngest son is six, but resembles a three year old in many ways   

After a particularly long day, I am thinking back about positives in some challenging, even irritating moments. 

  1. Pursue what you love to do, no matter what. He is an outdoor kid. He loves to go biking. It felt like he asked about 10,00 times if we could go biking. No matter how many times he as told no, or later, he kept on going until we went out. 
  2. Always find time to play. Another common request is to play with him. Very often, it is when w are tired, or not really wanting to. 
  3. Express your emirates   In theMidwest off the no, or later, he will often cry. He can go over the top sometimes, but there is no doubt h mo doubt how he feels. 

Just some thoughts from a weary parent. 

If we’re honest……

July 29, 2016

Secrets can hold a great deal of power, if we let them.

There are good secrets, like presents and surprises.  These secrets are usually kept for a short period of time, and because they are for a good purpose.

The secrets that have power tend to be darker, the things that we don’t want known from our past. People go to great lengths to keep things quiet and out of sight.

There are some things that shouldn’t necessarily be widely known.

We often go to great lengths to put up a front that everything is going well, even though things may becoming completely unglued.

The power of secrets is broken by being honest, with people that are safe.  These are usually close friends, with a relationship developed and tested over time.

Francesca Battistelli is a Christian artist. She released an album in 2014 titled “If We’re Honest”.   The title track is very powerful. Here’s a link to the YouTube videoIf We’re Honest.

When we admit to each other that we are a mess, we gain freedom. We don’t have to waste energy hiding our crap.  We can just be real with each other

It can be a long road to get to this point.

Not everyone is safe to be brutally honest with.

Still, it is important to be honest.

It takes too much energy to keep the walls from falling in.

To be honest, it is life draining.

The cumulative effect of things takes a toll over time.  In the last 18 months, we have received a significant diagnosis for each of our kids.  My parents have both had challenges.  Our extended family has been dealing with a number of challenges.  To be honest, I am worn down by all of these things.  But is necessary to keep moving forward, and finding a place where energy can be restored.  It can be a huge challenge, especially when it seems everyone wants one more piece.

In spite of this, life is still good.  God provides.

And energy is better spent on living, rather than keeping up the walls.

 

Summer goes by…

July 16, 2016

We’ve had some pretty hot weather over the past week or so. 

It’s been uncomfortable at times, but this the type of weather we wait all winter for. 

It’s really hard to believe that July is half gone. 

Before we know it, it will be September and back to school time. 

Until then, we just have to enjoy the weather. 

Not all days are as horrible as it seems

April 12, 2016

There are some days it feels like everyone is link get up to take one more kick, punch, stab, or whatever else. These days are just draining. 

I took the boys to buy a birthday card. Tate wrote his name, as usual. Then Reid wrote his name. I was surpriseded. There have been a few significant things happening recently. Progress happens step by step. 

I happened to hear a song on the radio recently that spok to me in the midst of challfesges. It was I will trust in You – Lauren Daigle

No matter what’s going on, we have tip trust in God to work things out. 

Vacation at Disney World

November 16, 2015

We recently returned home from two weeks away from home traveling to Disney World In Florida.

It was fun to travel and see the sights. It was good to get home, as well.

One thing that made our time in the parks easier was Disney’s Disability Access Service Card. This is available to anyone with a disability, visible or invisible. No medical documentation is required to obtain it.

It allows the holder and their party to go to a ride, and get a time to return, based on the current wait time. While waiting, it is possible to go and do something else until the return time.  When this is combined with Fast passes, it really makes a big dent in wait times. There were very few times that we waited more than about 20 to 30 minutes. Most wait times weren’t really long, but some were up to 90 minutes.

We stayed on the property, which makes things easier, as travel is minimized

We stayed for 10 nights and spent each day in the parks. It may seem like quite a bit, but it gave us lots of time for get everything done, without too much rushing.

Disney isn’t cheap, but the experience us well done. Even when we had challenges, the cast members were very accommodating.

It will likely be a couple of years before we go again. It was a worthwhile trip .

Exhausting days

August 3, 2015

There are some seasons of life that are exhausting.

I have heard it said that the days are long and the years are short with young kids.

Don’t be afraid to ask parents of young kids, especially if they have kids with special needs, if they need to talk, or have a break. You have no idea the encouragement it could make to someone who may be hanging by a thread.

Belated Father’s Day thoughts

June 24, 2015

We live in a complicated world.

One of my co-workers has a child fathered by a man who has not exactly been supportive of his son.  It is a long, and unfortunately, fairly typical of a male who cuts and runs when things get tough.

Since then, there is another man that has come into her life, and is a true father and daddy to her son.

The boy’s biological father expresses a bit of an interest around Father’s Day, but it appears to be out of jealousy for the real father figure.

One of the best ways I have heard the immature grown up male described is a “boy that can shave”.  I’ve heard Matt Chandler of the Village Church in Texas use that term.  I’m not sure if it is originally his, but it sure is accurate.

We exchanged a few texts, and commented about the difference between a father and a dad; alternatively the difference between a man and a boy that can shave.

It can take a few seconds to become a father.  Being a dad is a 24/7, 18 plus year commitment.

Nine years

April 28, 2015

April 27, 2006.

It was a day that changed our lives forever.

At the same point in time, our four year long quest to become parents had ended, and our journey as parents began at the same time, as our new baby was delivered.

And the adventure continues.


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