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Adoption Christmas Celebration

December 4, 2011

Our local Children’s Aid Society (CAS), also known as Family & Children’s Services, hosted their 7th annual adoption Christmas party.

When we agreed to ongoing visits with Reid’s birth mother, one was to be in the summer around her birthday, and one was at this event.

At that time, the adoption worker told us it was likely that she would lose interest, as she had with a couple of her other kids.  In the months leading up to the agreement, she had missed several visits, and it seemed likely that would happen again.

In the summer, we got a call from the adoption worker asking about her summer visit.  We worked it out, and met her in the downtown park in our city.  We had a good visit.  She was sad to go at the end of the visit.

We met at the church hosting the party this afternoon.  This afternoon, she seemed to have matured in a way.  She was glad to seem Reid.  Some things have come together for her.  She is seeing her first child again a couple of times a week.  This seems to be one of many things that have turned around for her.

We had a good visit today.  She had bought some nice Christmas presents for Reid.

After the party, we offered to drop off her and her boyfriend to the downtown bus terminal to make for a quicker trip home.

I think it is quite progressive of our CAS to host this event.  Compared to experiences I have heard in other cities, our experience has been quite positive.

This morning, we told Tate we were going to a party where we would see Reid’s birth mother.  He asked if he could see his birth mother some time.  We told him we didn’t know.  We explained that each story is different.  His mom was probably so sad, it would be too difficult to see him.  He seemed OK with the answer.  For now.

Hopefully we’ll have a better answer in the future.

Our adoption experience is an ongoing journey.


Days of August

August 17, 2011

It’s been a busy month.

Reid is continuing to move along at his own pace.

Tonight, it seemed like he almost took a step or two as he went from a chair to the table to grab something off the table.  He is continuing to climb everything in sight – chairs, tables, steps, whatever.

We just finished another round of swimming lessons.  Not surprisingly, he did quite well at splashing, dunking, and getting wet.  Still not so great at bubbles.

I put his car seat facing forward for the first time this week.  He seemed to like the change of view.


July 20, 2011

We have an appointment in the morning with a doctor, a physiotherapist, an occupational therapist, a kinesiologist, and a speech therapist to see how Reid is doing.

He has been tracking behind the scale on several areas.  After this meeting, we will find out if he is getting any extra help, or going on a waiting list.

His vocabulary is still somewhat limited.  Coming, but limited.

He will stand for a few seconds, but still no steps.  He is getting closer, but not walking yet.  Give it time.

New things

July 11, 2011

Reid has had some new teeth poking through for a bit.  It seems that most of his teeth up to his first molars are either through or very close to it.  Without very much fuss.

The other thing that is exciting and scary at the same time is that he seems to be getting closer to walking.  Yesterday afternoon, he stood by himself after letting go of my leg for a good 30 seconds.  There have been little bits here and there, but that is the longest stretch standing by himself.  It will be nice when he starts to walk and doesn’t have to be carried everywhere.  Man, he is heavy.

We are also due to arrange a visit with his birth mother.  We set up an e-mail address to communicate with her.  We received a message from the adoption worker to contact her.  I tried to call her one day last week.  She has call privacy, which prevents unknown numbers from being able to call without entering a phone number.  We are hesitant to provide our phone number.  We also are hesitant to provide our cell phone number.  We asked the family worker to contact her to reach us through the e-mail account.

We are planning to meet her at a local park.  This also leads to telling Tate about the difference in their birth stories.  That could be a challenge.

Simple things

June 26, 2011

I am sitting here watching Reid play on the couch with a dollar store book that has letters and pictures of things staring with that letter.

He is up and down, around, up , down, and chattering away the whole time. Children teach us to remember to dwell in the simple things.

In the midst of this, he fell off the couch, and I had to run to pick him up and stop his crying. A couple of minutes of looking for a soother, and holding and bouncing, and it is all good.

It is so easy to get bogged down in the details of life – going to work, getting meals, paying bills, running from one activity to another to another, and making ourselves completely insane.

Sometimes, less is more. Less scheduled activity means more time with family and friends.

At least one day this summer, sit down and relax with a small child. Let them show you how to relish the simple things.

Busy times

June 19, 2011

It seems there is no end to activity.

Reid is continuing to get increasingly brave.  He continues to climb pretty much everything.  He has climbed up on pretty much everything in the house, including our bed.  It is as far off the ground as he is tall.  He struggled a bit, but he got up with a bit of effort.

He climbs couches, chairs, and on the table if we will let him.

He is getting more teeth.  He is drooling quite a bit, almost like a bulldog.  Quite the little boy.

Never a dull moment.

Tate is quite busy.  I cannot believe how smart he is, and how much energy he has.  I am just worn out from his energy.   I definitely need to find a better way to mesh his energy with my lack.



June 14, 2011

After a break of about seven months, we have the boys back in swimming.

Tate from 5:45 to 6:15, Reid from 5:30 to 6:00.

Tate is in a class where he is the smallest, by quite a bit.  We’ll have to see if he is in the right class.

Reid is in a parent and tot class.  He loves the water, and is splashing, but not as much as the last time. It should get more active for him.

Development progress

May 19, 2011

Today we went to see the pediatrician. Reid is progressing well. He is still behind where he should be, but catching up. The doctor said it us normal to walk up to 18 months. We go back to see him again in two months.

Mother’s day

May 8, 2011

Mother’s Day is full of mixed feelings – many happy, many sad, many painful.

There are many reasons for the sad or the painful.

Parents have passed on, especially painful if it was premature. Sandra lost her mom before we had children. There is the pain of not being able to share a hug or say I love you one last time.

As adoptive parents, we have two children to celebrate the day with. However, for us to have children, two birth mothers do not have theirs.

We have friends who want to have children. We can, to a degree, feel their pain. We have been there. It is a season of life that many couples struggle with, often for years.

Many have strained relationships with family for various reasons. This can be difficult, as it can be hard to know what to do to bridge the gap.

Sick kids

May 5, 2011

Tate started acting unusual on Friday. He started with diarrhea on Friday. It has been happening pretty much every day up until yesterday. Today was the first day hasn’t had it.

Reid had been sick since Sunday night. It stared about 1:00. He threw up. We cleaned him up, got him settled in. About 1:30, it started again. We got him cleaned up again abs put him back to bed. Between then and six, he woke up several more times. Fun.

Over the next couple days, he threw up several more times, had diarrhea a few times, and has been just miserable. It just took an hour for him to go to sleep, which is very unusual.

Tate will go back to school for the first time this week.

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