Archive for the ‘Reid’ Category

Open Adoption Christmas Party

December 9, 2015

Reid and I attended the annual open adoption Christmas party with his birth mother and her fiance this past weekend.

It was the fifth time we have  attended this event.  We agreed to meet with her a couple of times a year when she consented to his adoption.

We have always been open with the fact that our kids are adopted.  It is a challenge to share what is appropriate, for both the age and developmental stage of the child.  Tate understands, and is comfortable with it.  He has asked some questions, but nothing too difficult. Reid hasn’t really reached that point where we can share much with him.

It is good to maintain contact with the family of origin.  I’m not sure if it will become awkward at some point.  Time will tell.

There are many families that attend year after year, and have a good relationship.  Hopefully that will be our journey as well.

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Highlights

December 13, 2014

Some days of full of good things and bad things.

Today was one with a significant highlight.

Reid is in his second season in a special hockey program.  One of our main goals has been for him to learn to be able to skate independently.  He was getting close at the end of last year.  It took him a while to get back up to speed this year.  He has been getting close.  The coaches have ben working to be get up by leaning on his hockey stick, or his leg to get up.

I was watching him play on the ice, like he usually does.  Then, I saw him get up and skate about five or six steps.  I was completely stunned.  I was pleased to see all the work he has been doing pay off.

Reflections on the summer

September 7, 2014

The summer of 2014 was an unusual one, in many respects.

After a long, extremely cold winter, the weather gurus were calling for a hot summer.  They missed the boat.  There was one day that hit 30 degrees Celcius in June.  July and August were cooler and wetter than normal.

The days have slipped away.  And they are becoming shorter.  Last night, it was pretty dark by 8:30.  When it is cloudy, it can be very dark by 8:00.  The same thing has happened in the mornings.  Before long, it will be going to work and coming home in the dark.

It was a short summer, as school went untll almost the end of June, and school started in our area on September 2.

The last few days of August were nice and hot.

For the past several years, we have had passes to a local water park and Canada’s Wonderland.  We didn’t get to either one as much as we have in prior years.  LIfe has been busy this year, for a number of reasons.

We have had a foster child for just over a year, and he has been attending camps, activities, and visits with his family.

Reid has transitioned to kindergarten.  He has a modified day, as he gets picked up about halfway through the day.  He needs his sleep, and that helps him (and us).

Tate has moved into third grade in French immersion.  His teacher is impressed with him and his insights.

Activities will ramp up over the next few weeks.  This weekend has been quiet.  Hockey starts again in a couple of weeks. 

September brings a return to routine, and an opportunity to think about what things we like in our lives, and what behaviours and attitudes maybe should change.  In many ways, it is a more appropriate time for resolutions for change than January is.

It is important to be busy.  However, it is more important not to be too busy.  We need to leave margins, or space around the edges of our lives, so that we have room for things that come up, or go wrong.

Think about it ….. how often does an opportunity come up for something that we have to decline because we are too busy?

Back to school again….

September 3, 2014

We have started to settle back into the fall routine again.

Back to school.  Back to friends.  Back to routine.

We had some nice weather the last weekend before school started.  Finally.

Life is getting back to normal.  Whatever that means……

Interesting day

July 21, 2014

We had a fairly quiet week last week.

That was not the way this week started.

About 12:30, we heard the smoke detector go off.  I got up and tried to use a button to silence it.  After a couple of attempts, it also started saying that there was carbon monoxide.  After double checking the house, I went outside and took a look to make sure nothing was going on.

I called the fire department, and they came out.

We got everyone out and hid out in the van.  Reid was excited, as he is enthralled by fire trucks.

There was no carbon monoxide and no smoke.

In the morning, we saw a dump truck in front of the house.  A few minutes later, another truck showed up.  A backhoe showed up a couple of minutes later.

What do little boys like more than fire trucks?  Construction equipment!!  And in action!!

They dug out a couple of sidewalk slabs to be replaced.

After they were done, the worker asked if we would like his picture taken in the truck.  How could we resist?

It made his week.

And kudos to the city worker for going out his way to entertain a child .

We got Reid up for the show.

Hopefully our week is a bit more quiet after all of this excitement.

Soccer with Reid

July 3, 2014

Last night was the first session of a “Me and my dad” soccer program with Reid.

We weren’t really sure what it would be like when we signed him up for it.  We were hopeful that it would be playing soccer.  

This particular program is through Sportball, and is about developing basic skills, like dribbling, trapping, and kicking.  It is nice that every player gets a ball and jersey – with the same number.

It is good to learn the basic skills. 

It will help us focus Reid on listening to instructions from teachers and coaches.  And his dad.  I am the one with the hardest time getting him to listen and pay attention.  I need to be more patient.  God, please hurry up and grant it to me.

The arrival of spring

April 8, 2014

I was ready to write ma!post about how we were finally doing some spring activities last night.

And them there is snow on the ground this morning. It will likely be gone by lunch.

We took the boys out on their bikes over the last couple of nights.

Reid and Tate are both moving up to a bigger bike. Reid has taken over Tate’s old bike. Last year he used a device to keep his feet in place on the pedals. Over the winter, he had developed enough control that he didn’t need the device on his old home. We tried him on the new bike without the device, and he mastered it fairly quickly.

Tate is waiting for his new bike to be fixed up.

We also took J out. He hasn’t been on a bike before. We walked alongside him and helped keep him straight and balanced while he pedaled. By the end of our time last night, he was going on hiss own in the parking lot. It was kind of shaky, but he was getting it.

Before long, we will be riding the trails.

Happy Fourth Birthday, Reid

January 23, 2014

It is hard to believe that Reis will be four tomorrow.

Most of the time, he is a delight. Other times, not so much.

So much has happened in his short life.

We have walked the road of fostering to adopt. We have walked along the road of open adoption.

As time has passed , we have become aware of some developmental delays.

He has really progressed over the past few months. His speech can be a not hard to get, but he tries really hard. He is a determine d little stinker. It serves him well most of the time. It will help him work to overcome his challenges.

I would think the highlight of this year was getting him involved with the Ice Pirates hockey program. In two months, Reid moved from being hesitant to go out on the ice to one who gets a skating aid and goes out in his own, and being a forces on the ice. Hopefully he is skating on his own by the end of March.

It will be an exciting year, as we figure out school and how to help integrate him into the school system. 

Fingerpainting

November 24, 2013

It never ceases to amaze me what kids can pull off.

After about two hours of quiet, we thought it would be a good idea to get Reid up from his nap.

I open the door, and saw the little monkey had been finger painting. With zinc oxide cream. At least it wasn’t poo.

What. A. Mess. All over his bed, dresser, clothes. The wood cleaned up with dish soap and water.

Google had some great tips for cleaning the clothes. After the vinegar soak, we’ll see how the wash turns out.

The moral of the story:

Where there is a will, there is a way.  A strong-willed child can accomplish so much.

Special hockey game

October 26, 2013

The Ice Pirates played their first game of the season today.

Reid has been looking forward to hockey all week.

We weren’t sure exactly what to expect.

There were kids and helpers all over the ice.  Some were skating on their own, others had their helper with them.  (At Reid’s level, there is one helper per child.)

It was organized chaos.  I think every child had a chance to score a goal, with as much assistance as necessary.

It was lots of fun.

 


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