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Sudden change (or maybe not)

August 24, 2017

We started out on our journey toward adoption about 15 years ago.

Our journey shifted toward fostering when a baby (now our son) became available, but he wasn’t available for adoption yet. We were presented with the option of foster to adopt. Why not, we thought.

Fast forward about 2 years, and we are looking at expanding our family again. We waited to get our home study updated so we could be considered for another child.

At the end of 2009, we received a call about a baby due in a month. This was our second son.

It took a long time to finalize his adoption.

We decided to foster to give back.

We had a few foster kids over the years.

As time passed, we discovered our kids had some challenges. We placed restrictions on the kids we were willing to accept.

As we were going through the annual paperwork, it seemed that wasn’t much point to continuing.

So we are no longer foster parents.

Fostering enriched our lives and have us our family.

That season is over.


Summer goes by…

July 16, 2016

We’ve had some pretty hot weather over the past week or so. 

It’s been uncomfortable at times, but this the type of weather we wait all winter for. 

It’s really hard to believe that July is half gone. 

Before we know it, it will be September and back to school time. 

Until then, we just have to enjoy the weather. 

Your child doesn’t look like they have FASD ….

May 24, 2016

So far, we haven’t run into any major problems with people in the school system having an issue getting FASD and the accommodations needed that are spelled out in the IEP. Until recently. But that’s another story …..

Here’s a link to a post on by Mike Berry,  Your child doesn’t look like they have FASD. This post summarizes many things we have experienced, or will likely experience in the future.

The issue of invisible disabilities goes far beyond FASD, or the autism spectrum, or many other acronyms.


Ten years 

April 27, 2016

This is a special day for us. 

Ten years ago, our baby was delivered. By a social worker. To our front door..

That little boy has become a bright, creative, energetic young man.


April 18, 2016

I was just looking total views, and it is closing in on 5,000. 

The long view on fostering

March 24, 2016

TIn the past few months, I have discovered a blog and website,, with content written by Mike and Kristen Berry. 

Mike and Kristen have adopted eight kids, some with FASD. I have found the posts to contain a great deal of useful information. They offer advice from the perspective of those who have dealt with the screaming, yelling, stomping, chucking stuff around, fit that leaves the parent wanting to crawl into a hole. 

In addition to their written content, they also have a podcast that shares useful information. 

In their podcast episode released on March 23, Season 2, Episode 18 Interview with Tricia Collins, Mike interviews Tricia Collins, a former foster child.  

Many foster parents wonder if what they are doing makes a difference. 

Tricia shared it took a while, but it did make a difference. 

Check out th website and podcast. It can also be found on iTunes. Podcast link in iTunes

Special needs parenting – IEP

March 18, 2016

For the uninitiated, this is an individual education plan. 

This document is an important step in achieving success for children with challenges.  

It can take a fair bit of work to accomplish, but it is a big step in starting to access resources. 

Here is a link to a post from Love that Max, written by Ellen Seidman. 

It’s just one more part of the journey. 


February 8, 2016

There are some days, even weeks, that feel like they suck the life out of you.

Thus week has had a few of those. Some of the behaviours and defiance are just enough to make me wish I could crawl under a rock.

I was talking to another parent who has adopted a couple of kids with FASD. I commended her for making it. She said the teen years can be tough, especially with hormones and all of the fun that’s on with that.

There has been so much going on that I just feel wrung out.

In the past couple of months , I came across a new to me blog, Confessions of an adoptive parent, blogged by Mike and Kristin Berry.

They have been wiring for a while. They have adopted some kids with special needs, including FASD.

They have just launched a podcast called Honestly Speakimg, which can be found on their website. It can also be found on iTunes.

They also offer a free resource, “The Weary Parent’s Guide to Escaping Exhaustion”, for subscribing to their email.

I have found several posts to be right where I’m living at the moment.


January 25, 2016

It’s hard to believe, but it has been six years since a little man was born that has challenged, stretched, and taught us many things was born.

Seven years

October 3, 2015

I got a notification that it has been seven years since I started this blog.

So much has happened, it is hard to describe briefly. It has taken more than 500 posts.

In the last year, our lives have shifted toward advocacy for our children.

More to come on that front.

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