Posts Tagged ‘Adoption’

Observations in Adoption Month

November 19, 2016

Adoption is a life changing experience, both for the adoptive parents and adopted child. 

Adoption is romanticized in the media. They don’t necessarily tell the whole story, along with the bumps and warts that are come along with real life. 

They don’t necessarily know about the challenges that can be part of the journey, especially when adopting from foster care.  

To be fully aware of the potential issues, talk to adoptive parents. 

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Adopting an older child

October 8, 2016

Here’s a heart warming story about the adoption of an almost 18 year old, just before he aged out of foster care. 

How one loving couple changed an 18 year old foster kid”s life 

What about closed adoptions?

April 4, 2016

Much has changed around adoption in the past 40 or 50 years. 

Back in the old days, adoptions were often closed.  Little was known about the family of origin. 

There is a very broad spectrum between open and closed adoptions. Adoptions foster care system are often closed, usually related to safety issues. 

We have not met our oldest son’s family of origin at all. We have some information, but not much. He is aware he is adopted, and has been since he has been very young. 

We see our younger son’s birth mother a couple of times a year. There are other siblings we know of, but don’t really make contact. He doesn’t really know about the other connection. At some point, it will come up. We won’t hide it, but we won’t force the issue. 

Much less is said about closed adoptions. Here is a link to an interview, What an adoptee wants you to know about closed adoptions, an interview Mike and Krisitin Berry conducted with their daughter, Jaala. For more background information on their family and story, see Confessions of an adoptive parent

In adoption, no two situations are identical. Each relationship evolves over time, either closer or further apart. 

I have heard it said that different isn’t wrong. It’s just different. 

Adoption in the media

January 31, 2016

Whether you love th or hate them, the Robertson family of Duck Dynasty fame doesn’t beat around the bush.

We saw sme ads for a new reality series outlining the journey of Jep and Jessica as they pursue adoption.

This series iis Jep and Jessica:Growing the Dynasty, on A & E. The link is :http://www.aetv.com/shows/jep-jessica-growing-the-dynasty

We have seem three episodes so far.

They discuss a bit abut their journey to adoption, and how they integrate the new baby into their family. It also shows the extended family coming to meet the new baby.

I thunk it is well done, albeit a bit fluffy.

It presents adoption in a very positive light.

Adoption awareness is very important.  There are thousands of children waiting for a forever family. Very few are babies. All need families.

Adoption isn’t necessarily for everyone. It can be a tough road, especially when journeying down the spare dealing with challenges that happened in utero.

Everyone around adoptive families can help. Offering to help with an errand, or provide child care could be a huge blessing.  The need is even greater for families that have children with special needs.

Open Adoption Christmas Party

December 9, 2015

Reid and I attended the annual open adoption Christmas party with his birth mother and her fiance this past weekend.

It was the fifth time we have  attended this event.  We agreed to meet with her a couple of times a year when she consented to his adoption.

We have always been open with the fact that our kids are adopted.  It is a challenge to share what is appropriate, for both the age and developmental stage of the child.  Tate understands, and is comfortable with it.  He has asked some questions, but nothing too difficult. Reid hasn’t really reached that point where we can share much with him.

It is good to maintain contact with the family of origin.  I’m not sure if it will become awkward at some point.  Time will tell.

There are many families that attend year after year, and have a good relationship.  Hopefully that will be our journey as well.

Acronyms and their impact on our lives

April 12, 2015

This year has been a blur.

Part of it is getting older.  I’ve heard older people say that time goes as you get older.  A few years ago, I didn’t really believe.  And I didn’t really care, because I had lots of time left.

I find winter to be a tiring season, as the days are short.  February was miserably cold this year.

We have been extremely busy over the past few weeks, as we have been getting an educational assessment completed.  It took several trips and meetings to complete the testing and discuss the results.

We received a diagnosis, with an acronym, which we did not expect a few months ago.

It is frustrating to have a diagnosis, but it helps explain some things that we had no explanation for.  It also opens the door for some additional assistance and accommodation, which will be helpful.

We will have to work at teaching and developing impulse control and other other skills that most kids have.

We will have to be constantly in prayer and relying on God for wisdom as we parent over the next few years.

A random thought

April 11, 2015

Nine years ago, we were in the midst of waiting to find out if we were going to be parents.

We had an interview with two social workers to discuss the possibility of becoming parents to a little boy waiting for a forever family.

We found out on April 12, 2006.  And our lives have not been the same since.

Adoption is for life

March 30, 2015

Adoption changes the lives of everyone around the adaptive family.

Some will say that us a nice gesture.

Others won’t know what to say, and say nothing.

Others will make all sorts of well meaning, but uninformed comments.

It can take years, even decades before we realize the impact of adoption.

Adoption is meant to be a commitment to the child, no matter how tough things can be.

Open adoption in the media

January 13, 2014

I have been following openadoptionbloggers.com for a while. They cover a wide variety of adoption issues.

A post today talked about a TV show, based on the story about a reunion between a birth mom and the son she placed for adoption a number of years earlier.  Here is a link to the review. http://openadoptionbloggers.com/2014/01/13/kirstie-a-shallow-take-on-adoption/

The show is on TV Land, so it is likely on available in the US initially.

Adoption story – Stephen Kendrick

December 31, 2013

I was listening to an episode of FamilyLife Today earlier today.

Alex and Stephen Kendrick were providing an update on their activities since the release of their most recent movie, Courageous.

Stephen and his wife recently adopted a little girl from China.

Listen here for more details.

The Kendrick brothers are also discuss future plans, including working with the next generation of Christian filmmakers, and the possibility of a new movie in the future.


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