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And Christmas approaches

December 13, 2013

It has been a busy fall.

An older foster child came into our home in early September.

He is 11, and of Asian descent.  He attends a Catholic school.  It was a bit of bumpy transition, but things have settled down.  He has adapted to our family well.  It has been a bit of a challenge for him, as we are quite busy, and he spent lots of time on an iPad or computer.  There is much different activity at our house.

We found out a couple of weeks ago that he will be with us through Christmas for sure.  It is likely that he will be with us well into the New Year, possibly until the Spring.

We have been busy with pre-Christmas programs and activities.  Things are settling down.  We still have a bit of shopping to take care of.

Enjoy the coming season – good music, good food, good friends.  And the reason for the season – Jesus.


Christmas busyness

December 10, 2013

Over the past couple of weeks, we have been getting increasingly busy as Christmas approaches.

On Sunday night, we had our church Christmas program.  Lots of work has gone into it over the last few weeks.

In the midst of it, I took on the task of recording it and attempting to edit it into a movie.

So far, it is looking like it will come off.  Time will tell.  It is planned for delivery on Sunday.


December 2, 2013

Where has the year gone?

I got a last minute email on Friday asking if we could light the advent candle and read a short message on Sunday at church.

We discussed it, and said yes.  We were a bit concerned about how Reid would handle it.  We were told our part would be about 20 minutes into the service.   We were afraid there could be a bit of an ordeal.

After it was all said and done, it went well.  It was a very real family moment, down to the squirmy kid and nervous parents.




December 25, 2012

Our Christmas has been pretty low key this year.

It’s a bit odd.  There was a bit of snow, but nothing of major account.  It looks more like early November or late March than December.

We had turkey, potatoes, turnip, dressing, and vegetables.  We have enough leftover turkey to feed an army.

The kids enjoyed their presents – lots of toys.

Christmas just kind of snuck up on us this year, and now it’s almost over.

Merry Christmas and best wishes for a Happy New Year.

Next — Christmas hockey tournament.

Reid’s first Christmas program

December 7, 2012

Reid took part in his first Christmas program tonight.

He did a really good job.  We were very impressed and proud.

He sat on his chair, and did his part.

He had a costume.  Very cute.  Of course, everyone thinks their child is cute.

Open Adoption Christmas Party – the recap

December 1, 2012

It is truly amazing how different each adoption story is.

Even with our two boys, the stories are polar opposites.

We have never met any of Tate’s biological family.  We have no idea if that will happen at all.

On the other hand, we have met with Reid’s biological mother on several occasions.  Today, we picked up her and her boyfriend at a local Tim Hortons and took them with us to the party.  I wrote a bit more about it here.  To read about last years, read about it here.

It was a part of a really busy day, with hockey and a birthday party for Tate while we were there.

The biggest challenge is to keep a child who needs his nap has to sleep before his normal nap time happy and functioning around strangers and in a strange place.  Mission accomplished.  However, we left after two hours and made a stop at a Wal-Mart, mainly for the benefit of our guests.

We dropped them off at their home after it was done.  As a bit of irony, they live in the apartment building we lived in when we got married.

She has really matured in the last couple of years.  She has regular interaction with her first child.  That is a huge improvement from where things were six to seven years ago.

The family that adopted her second and third children has been very reserved in allowing contact.  They agreed to provide pictures if requested.  We talked to the worker today, and she is going to pass the message on to them.

We met with them just over two years ago, in the midst of the frequency of the visits falling off.  We haven’t made contact since.  Our adoption worker suggested it might be a good idea to help bridge the gap.

Their experience with visits was much more traumatic than ours.  Reid never really got upset after a visit.  Their daughter was a wreck, and it took at least a day for things to get back to normal.

Open Adoption – The Journey Continues

November 24, 2012

The open adoption Christmas party is next Saturday.

It’s a good opportunity for adopted children to remain connected to their biological parents.

We have made plans to pick up Reid’s birth mother and her boyfriend and take them along with us.  It is kind of surreal, but it works.


December 25, 2011

Merry Christmas!!

It’s been a busy year for us.

We celebrated Reid’s (then Braydon) first birthday.

We made an agreement with his birth mother for her to waive her rights, and to allow her to continue to see him a couple of times a year.  So far, she has kept up her end of the deal.  She has progressed a great deal.  We saw a maturity at the meeting in December that was not there in February.  She has a new boyfriend, who seems to have brought some stability.

We signed the final adoption paperwork in May.

We decided to foster after taking a break for the summer.  We had a foster child for just about two months.  He went back to his family just before Christmas.  That was really nice.

We received the adoption order early in November.

Reid started to walk, and his vocabulary is progressing, with a mix of words, sounds, and sign language.

We have had lots of highs and lows, but it has been a good year.

We are truly blessed and thankful for the family we have.

It has been almost six years since we started on our adoption journey.

Maybe it is time togo back and reminisce about some history.  More posts will follow.


Adoption Christmas Celebration

December 4, 2011

Our local Children’s Aid Society (CAS), also known as Family & Children’s Services, hosted their 7th annual adoption Christmas party.

When we agreed to ongoing visits with Reid’s birth mother, one was to be in the summer around her birthday, and one was at this event.

At that time, the adoption worker told us it was likely that she would lose interest, as she had with a couple of her other kids.  In the months leading up to the agreement, she had missed several visits, and it seemed likely that would happen again.

In the summer, we got a call from the adoption worker asking about her summer visit.  We worked it out, and met her in the downtown park in our city.  We had a good visit.  She was sad to go at the end of the visit.

We met at the church hosting the party this afternoon.  This afternoon, she seemed to have matured in a way.  She was glad to seem Reid.  Some things have come together for her.  She is seeing her first child again a couple of times a week.  This seems to be one of many things that have turned around for her.

We had a good visit today.  She had bought some nice Christmas presents for Reid.

After the party, we offered to drop off her and her boyfriend to the downtown bus terminal to make for a quicker trip home.

I think it is quite progressive of our CAS to host this event.  Compared to experiences I have heard in other cities, our experience has been quite positive.

This morning, we told Tate we were going to a party where we would see Reid’s birth mother.  He asked if he could see his birth mother some time.  We told him we didn’t know.  We explained that each story is different.  His mom was probably so sad, it would be too difficult to see him.  He seemed OK with the answer.  For now.

Hopefully we’ll have a better answer in the future.

Our adoption experience is an ongoing journey.


December 27, 2010

We had a fun day with the boys.
Braydon was more interested in the boxes and paper than the presents. Tate was wanting into everything.
We had my parents come to visit as well. It was unexpected, but worked out OK.
No visits this week due to holidays. Yeah!!

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