Posts Tagged ‘life’

If we’re honest……

July 29, 2016

Secrets can hold a great deal of power, if we let them.

There are good secrets, like presents and surprises.  These secrets are usually kept for a short period of time, and because they are for a good purpose.

The secrets that have power tend to be darker, the things that we don’t want known from our past. People go to great lengths to keep things quiet and out of sight.

There are some things that shouldn’t necessarily be widely known.

We often go to great lengths to put up a front that everything is going well, even though things may becoming completely unglued.

The power of secrets is broken by being honest, with people that are safe.  These are usually close friends, with a relationship developed and tested over time.

Francesca Battistelli is a Christian artist. She released an album in 2014 titled “If We’re Honest”.   The title track is very powerful. Here’s a link to the YouTube videoIf We’re Honest.

When we admit to each other that we are a mess, we gain freedom. We don’t have to waste energy hiding our crap.  We can just be real with each other

It can be a long road to get to this point.

Not everyone is safe to be brutally honest with.

Still, it is important to be honest.

It takes too much energy to keep the walls from falling in.

To be honest, it is life draining.

The cumulative effect of things takes a toll over time.  In the last 18 months, we have received a significant diagnosis for each of our kids.  My parents have both had challenges.  Our extended family has been dealing with a number of challenges.  To be honest, I am worn down by all of these things.  But is necessary to keep moving forward, and finding a place where energy can be restored.  It can be a huge challenge, especially when it seems everyone wants one more piece.

In spite of this, life is still good.  God provides.

And energy is better spent on living, rather than keeping up the walls.

 

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Exhausting days

August 3, 2015

There are some seasons of life that are exhausting.

I have heard it said that the days are long and the years are short with young kids.

Don’t be afraid to ask parents of young kids, especially if they have kids with special needs, if they need to talk, or have a break. You have no idea the encouragement it could make to someone who may be hanging by a thread.

Snow Day!!!

February 2, 2015

Today was quite an unusual day.

I woke up around 6, and was surprised to see how much snow had fallen overnight.

All the schools in our area, including the cities were closed.

After spending about an hour digging out, I was ready to head into work. I had an appointment in the morning, so I drove in. After I got parked, I found out the office was closed.  It would have been nice to known a bit sooner .

After I got home, I took the bpoys tobogganing for a bit. It was pretty cold, so we didn’t last too long.

At thr end of the day, it was fun.

Busy weekend

January 25, 2015

This has been a weekend of milestones for us.

Reid was five yesterday. Today marks the fifth anniversary of him coming home.

We were fortunate to get him so young. He really has no recollection of anything other than life with us. We are tremendously blessed to have that experience.

Even though things are busy, we are blessed to have Reid in our family. He is patient and determined, which helps make sure we get what he is trying to communicate.

We have much to be thankful for, there is no doubt about that.

The importance of community

January 23, 2015

We returned early Sunday evening from a trip to Indiana for a Bible quizzing event.

It was fun, but it was a long trip, with about seven hours of driving each way.

It is a lot of fun to go on a trip like that as part of a group.

It can be a challenge when there are smaller children that don’t handles quiet activity well. A group of parents with kids in this age group that can take turns looking after the younger kids makes it work out easier for everyone.

We so easily don’t see those around us that may have some sort of struggle. Don’t be afraid to offer help. You never know how much of a difference it could make.

Back to routine

January 3, 2015

School starts again on Monday.

It is nice to get back into routine.

a break us nice, but it to possible to have too much of a good thing. It is important to get back to routine before it gets there.

And the 2014 year continues to wind down

December 29, 2014

This year has been a blur.

We have had a foster child all through the year, since September, 2013.  He has been able to be involved in many activities over the last year that he was not able to before.  There are plans to return him to his mom a full-time basis, subject to meeting certain requirements.

Reid and Tate have both been involved in many activities as well.  They are both progressing, and we are pleased with their accomplishments.

We got a tent this summer.  Some of us slept out in it a few times.  We camped for a couple of days at the end of August as well.

Reid has been going to school on a modified program, for half days, since September.  It can be hard to tell how he likes it.  They have been on break for the last week.  He has been sign for a few days if there is school today.  I guess he actually does like it.

After a couple of more days, it will be 2015.

Time seems to go faster with each passing year.

Highlights

December 13, 2014

Some days of full of good things and bad things.

Today was one with a significant highlight.

Reid is in his second season in a special hockey program.  One of our main goals has been for him to learn to be able to skate independently.  He was getting close at the end of last year.  It took him a while to get back up to speed this year.  He has been getting close.  The coaches have ben working to be get up by leaning on his hockey stick, or his leg to get up.

I was watching him play on the ice, like he usually does.  Then, I saw him get up and skate about five or six steps.  I was completely stunned.  I was pleased to see all the work he has been doing pay off.

Observations

November 23, 2014

It is interesting how each child has special abilities.

Reid seems to have an uncanny idea to identify places that we have been to, often only once, or at some distant point in the past.

A couple of weeks ago, he picked out a spot Tate played soccer a couple of years ago as we were driving down the street.

Today, we were driving by an arena that he played hockey at this spring.

Tate played at the soccer field for a few months, and we could have approached the field from the other way on a couple of occasions.

The arena is really unusual, as we would not have been by there before.  We were driving down a street at a completely different angle than we would have when we went there before.

He has always been good at recognizing locations.

So, is he just good at locations, or is this some sort of extraordinary skill?

Developmental phases

November 9, 2014

There are certain phases of life that parents dread.

One is the barrage of “Why?” questions, about pretty much everything in life.

Another is the tattling of siblings on each other.

From what I have heard, it seems the why question seems to pop up around the age of three.  Reid started asked it quite frequently within the last month or so.  Sometimes he’ll get a “Why not?” back.  He is approaching the age of five, but that milestone seems to be more consistent with where he is at.

This morning, as the boys were eating breakfast, Reid complained that “Tate is looking at me”.

Again, one of those annoying little things, but it is nice to see and hear these typical developmental milestones, even though it may be a bit late.

Sometimes phases seem to last forever, but eventually they will pass.

I read something quite recently, you never know it will be the last time you do something – tuck in a child, pick up a child, throw him over your head, or get ready to send them off to school….. elementary, high school, or college.

Time is slipping quickly away.


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