Posts Tagged ‘loss’

Walking through adoption

March 26, 2013

My blogging friend, Instant Mama, is walking through the early steps of adopting five children in a sibling group.

She recently posted Avoiding the Awkward.  She discusses a number of questions that those around the family often ask.  These questions are asked with the best of intentions, but can open wounds that may be fresh.

Many forget that adoption becomes possible due to difficult circumstances.

Couples come to the point of adoption through a variety of circumstances, often infertility.  A loss has been grieved to reach the point of being willing to adopt.

It is a drastic thing for authorities to remove children from a family of origin.  Horrible things have to happen.

Sometimes children are abandoned.  This also happens in horrible circumstances.

There is a sense of loss for both the children and the rest of the family of origin.

When a couple gets married, there are many adjustments.  They have willingly come to the point of coming together.

In an adoptive situation, there may be some willingness.  There are huge issues to deal with, compared to a marriage.


Waiting to Belong | Adoption-related grief and loss |

February 13, 2013

Waiting to Belong | Adoption-related grief and loss |.

This is a link to an article with some interesting insight on the challenges that adoptive families face as time passes.

Anniversaries of significant events can reawaken past wounds.

Mother’s day

May 8, 2011

Mother’s Day is full of mixed feelings – many happy, many sad, many painful.

There are many reasons for the sad or the painful.

Parents have passed on, especially painful if it was premature. Sandra lost her mom before we had children. There is the pain of not being able to share a hug or say I love you one last time.

As adoptive parents, we have two children to celebrate the day with. However, for us to have children, two birth mothers do not have theirs.

We have friends who want to have children. We can, to a degree, feel their pain. We have been there. It is a season of life that many couples struggle with, often for years.

Many have strained relationships with family for various reasons. This can be difficult, as it can be hard to know what to do to bridge the gap.

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