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Food for thought

April 23, 2014

I read a post by Ellen Seidman at this morning that concerned me a bit.

The post links to an article by Andrew Pollack of the New York Times discusses this controversial finding.

If doctors are considering cost as a factor in determining treatment, what other factors are they considering?

Are the vulnerable and at risk becoming increasingly vulnerable?

In this day and age, it seems that some are more equal than others.  Does this mean that the vulnerable are even less equal in the eyes of the medical system?


Another thought about developmental milestones

November 13, 2013

I read a post, Being a scary monster is a beautiful thing, this morning from Ellen at about how kids progress differently, especially when they have special needs.

It reminded me how much each child moves at their own pace.  Our own two kids are so different in their progress, as all are.

We have to remember that each child is different.  Milestones are based on averages.  An average is based the total of a lot, divided by the number.  By that very fact, everyone is above or below average.

We try to see everything as normal.  Really, nothing is normal.

Special treatment for kids with special needs?

October 3, 2013

In late September, Disney announced changes to their program for guests with challenges.

There were reports of people abusing the system that led to the change.

Others raged that there are programs that allow preferred access.  Some questioned why people with children with special needs would go to a place like Disney.

Ellen at wrote about the reasons in this post, Let’s talk about kids with special needs and special treatment.

There is some food for thought there.

There are all sorts of challenges.

Some kids are globally delayed, behind in everything.

Some have physical limitations, such as cerebral palsy (CP) or muscular dystrophy (MD).  Usually, people with these challenges are unaffected mentally.  They may have challenges expressing themselves, but they are still people.  Like all of us.

No two situations are alike.

As busy as life with kids can be, any sort of physical delay just multiplies the challenges.  Kids go through phases.  With delays, normal phases just take longer.  With communication delays, frustration increases for everyone.


September 19, 2013

I saw a post from Ellen at about those who comment about how great parents of special needs kids are.  Check out “I’m not a great parent just because  have a kid with special needs.”

Ellen writes about the assumption that people make that parents with special needs kids are great parents.

The help we give our kids is just parenting.  All children need to to be parented differently.

There are far too many instance of parents divorcing after a special need happens, often because the father has left.  It is unfortunate that so many in this day and age, often men, but not always, abandon ship with things get tough.

Parenting is a tough calling.  I have heard it said that God has placed children in our lives to help us grow up, as much as it is to help them grow up.  Children can bring out our selfishness and point out our pride at the most embarrassing times.

In these times when we blow it, we can set an important example for our kids when we admit we messed up and ask for forgiveness.  Not that I always do that.  Just do it more often than not.

Random thoughts from the wilderness about isolation

October 3, 2012

As I sat down at the computer to read some blogs and other things I subscribe to, I saw a post from Ellen, at, about a conference held in the US to discuss improving access and integration for those with disabilities.  As this is an election year, both parties presented as well.  I am probably oversimplifying the whole thing.

This is talked about more in A world more welcoming to people with disabilities, describing the event above.


7 tips for photographing a child with special needs – link to Love that Max

August 30, 2012

This post on Love that Max was inspired by an article in O Magazine, featuring Marsha McNeely of Marshs McNeely Photography.

One tip she offered was to offer a Smartie as a reward.  One thing I discovered earlier this year is that Smarties are not the same in Canada in the US.  Canadians know this little candy better as Rockets.  Our Smarties are multi-coloured candy coated chocolate centres, similar to M&M’s.  In this case, I think Americans are getting ripped off.

These tips ring true, as we went for family pictures on Tuesday.

Things were interesting, as Reid is quite busy.  He is now about 2 and a half.  Some of these tips would like work a bit better for an older child.

It is definitely worth a read.

Positives about autism – link to Love that Max

August 28, 2012

This is a link to a post about the positives of autism, written by a 24 year old, who was diagnosed at the age 4.   It is on, a blog written by the mother of an autistic boy.

Early treatment and therapy have been instrumental to his success in life.

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