Posts Tagged ‘visit’

Counting down to Christmas

December 13, 2011

Last week, we picked up P from a visit with his G.  She said in five more sleeps he would be going with her.  This was a bit of a surprise development.  We didn’t have a chance to talk with her, as we were leaving shortly.  P was going for the weekend with another foster family.  We didn’t get a chance to get any more details.

She called and talked on Sunday night, no more new information.

Sandra talked to a worker on Monday.  She mentioned that it seems unlikely that he will be moving by Christmas.  A transition is unlikely to happen over a couple of days, more likely over a month, with visits for a couple of days and extending for longer periods of time.


Adoption Christmas Celebration

December 4, 2011

Our local Children’s Aid Society (CAS), also known as Family & Children’s Services, hosted their 7th annual adoption Christmas party.

When we agreed to ongoing visits with Reid’s birth mother, one was to be in the summer around her birthday, and one was at this event.

At that time, the adoption worker told us it was likely that she would lose interest, as she had with a couple of her other kids.  In the months leading up to the agreement, she had missed several visits, and it seemed likely that would happen again.

In the summer, we got a call from the adoption worker asking about her summer visit.  We worked it out, and met her in the downtown park in our city.  We had a good visit.  She was sad to go at the end of the visit.

We met at the church hosting the party this afternoon.  This afternoon, she seemed to have matured in a way.  She was glad to seem Reid.  Some things have come together for her.  She is seeing her first child again a couple of times a week.  This seems to be one of many things that have turned around for her.

We had a good visit today.  She had bought some nice Christmas presents for Reid.

After the party, we offered to drop off her and her boyfriend to the downtown bus terminal to make for a quicker trip home.

I think it is quite progressive of our CAS to host this event.  Compared to experiences I have heard in other cities, our experience has been quite positive.

This morning, we told Tate we were going to a party where we would see Reid’s birth mother.  He asked if he could see his birth mother some time.  We told him we didn’t know.  We explained that each story is different.  His mom was probably so sad, it would be too difficult to see him.  He seemed OK with the answer.  For now.

Hopefully we’ll have a better answer in the future.

Our adoption experience is an ongoing journey.

Settling in

October 23, 2011

The novelty is wearing off.

Tate has asked a couple times in the last couple of times how much longer P will be staying with us.

The answer has been the same, we really don’t know. Really, we don’t.

For the first couple of days, things were pretty smooth. There is starting to be a bit more push back.

We also dropped P off for a visit with his family of origin. Both exchanges went well.

After supper, the boys were goofing around, and went behind a couch they had been told not to go behind.  A number of times. Some stuff could have broke, which is never a good thing.  Nothing was broken.

We are being firm, and applying the rules of our family. It is a challenge, and we’ll see how it goes.

After allowing a few minutes for everyone to cool down, everyone went to bed.   A bit quicker than normal.

There is more testing than there has been in the first couple of days.

As frustrating as it sounds, and is, it is actually a good thing.  Testing and defiance is a sign that the foster child is feeling part of the family.

It is a challenge for us to extend love, mercy, and grace, as God did through Jesus.

Fostering and adoption, and even parenting is a valid manifestation of how God shows his love to us.  It helps us to see how we test Him, defy Him, and do what we want, even though it is completely stupid and harmful to us and for us.

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February 3, 2011

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Into the new year

January 3, 2011

Another visit was scheduled for today.

We hadn’t heard by 9:30 what was up, so I called and left a message for the worker. She called back around 10:44. Apparently BM had called in on Sunday to find out if they were open today. The worker left a message right after I called and told BM to call back within a hour to confirm the visit. BM hadn’t called in, so the visit was canceled.

This one was a bit tougher to say just a no show, but still.

Next thing, court tomorrow. Another adjournment? Move to trial or summary judgement? We’ll find out.

Meanwhile, last week at home before everyone has an adjustment as I head back to work. Definitely mixed feelings. Routine will be nice, but it will be tough to get up and go to work every day.

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October 22, 2010

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October 20, 2010

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Visits ahead

October 4, 2010

Braydon has a visit again tomorrow.

Today we spent the day with several friends, and Braydon was fine. After the visits last week, we’ll see how things are this coming week.

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August 24, 2010

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Home study visit

September 30, 2008

We had our home study visit yesterday.  It went more quickly than we thought. 

It should take another week for it to be finished.  Once it is finished, we are on the list to wait for a match.

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